I Smile at Pain (and so can you)

Yesterday at the gym I thought about something that caused me discomfort. Not a big deal, but something that was a little unsettling. It inspired another thought that made me feel a whole lot better. Maybe it will do the same for you.

Often when I’m thinking - in a relaxed allowing state, free from self recrimination I find the complicated parts of my life unraveling.

I come up on a problem, some part of my present that’s not at ease. I see the error of thought, emotion or behavior. There’s discomfort, maybe even pain. It’s laid out clear as day.

And I smile.

When confronted with the thorny part of their lives many people will furrow their brows, curse their luck and otherwise react negatively. They feel powerless before their problems. They allow themselves to be victims.

I enjoy understanding my problems. Once a pattern makes sense to me, even a bad one I instantly feel better. I can choose to alter that pattern, quickly or slowly. Or I can choose to live with it for the time being and turn my attention to things that are more important to me in the moment.

Or I can even decide to live with it altogether and celebrate my perfect imperfection.

But knowledge is the beginning of power. It’s the gateway we can cross…quickly, slowly or not at all.

When we smile at our pain we honor ourselves and our glorious self-awareness regardless of any other circumstances.

Got some pain? Bless it. See it as a growth experience.

Get quiet and breathe into it.

And watch it magically bless you back.

Your Friend,
Larry
http://NoMoreHoldingBack.com
http://ManifestWithLarry.com

P.S. Please don’t confuse understanding the pattern of pain with sitting for hours on end, trying to understand the “why” of it. That’s the worst kind of hell I know of, and one many counselors are guilty of perpetuating (I’m a certified counselor, so I’m allowed to say that). As I tell my coaching clients, the why’s usually come to the surface…very gently when you surrender the effort to understand.

P.P.S. If you haven’t gotten on my newsletter at http://NoMoreHoldingBack.com yet, this is the right time to do so. Got some groups that will be forming next mont

Why You Quit On Your Goals, and How To Get Success

Why you have quit and failed on your goals and your resolutions? It’s not that you are lazy, or stupid, or a slacker. It’s that you were not having FUN with what you wanted to do. It’s that you didn’t have a path to get there. It’s that you didn’t have a community to run with. Whether it’s weight loss, fitness, building a business, manifesting or fixing a relationship, or finding inner peace, figure out how to have FUN doing it. Here are some ways to make that happen…

CLICK HERE TO MANIFEST WITH LARRY AND THE WHOLE MANIFEST MASTERMIND COMMUNITY

“Because I Said So”

Some parents convince their young children they have supernatural powers - or at least try to…

“Eat your broccoli.”

“Why?”

“Because I Said So!”

“Clean your room.”

“Why?”

Because I Said So!!”

“Do your homework.”

“Why??”

“BECAUSE I SAID SO!!!”

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These parents want to be omnipotent in their kids’ worlds. They want to speak their words into existence. They want the word to become law.

And sometimes it does. For some, obeying parents without any hesitation is based on fear.

And for others it’s based on complete dependence on the guidance of a mother or father, or both.

And sometimes it’s based on complete trust, love, honor and respect for the person who tells you what to do.

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It can be easy or hard to speak your will into another person. Usually it’s impossible unless it’s a dependent child.

(And if it’s someone other than a dependent child, ask yourself if you really want that kind of power over another.)

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Now let’s get to the meat and potatoes of the matter…

How good are you at speaking YOUR OWN WORDS into existence?

It goes back to the authority and confidence you used when speaking your will into someone else. You had every expectation they would obey…

because you had a complete sense of control and power.

AND (my point)…if you have a sense of control and power over your own life, you find you can speak your own reality into existence.

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“I will attract $20,000 into my checking account this week…because I said so.”

“I will manifest my best time ever running five miles…because I said so.”

“I will create the perfect vacation for my spouse and me, including a great experience for the kids (apart from us)…because I said so.”

There are people who do this as on an everyday basis. Some are famous - such as Donald Trump, Hugh Hefner, etc.

Some are underground, quietly living the life of their dreams.They have a partnership with the Universe. It’s as if they’re the parent and the forces around them have such love and regard, they arrange great things for them.

And there are many who have partially mastered this skill and have created wonderful life situations. They’re on their way to achieving that same relationship and having a great time in the process.I’m one of those very people!

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Where are you on the “Because I Said So” spectrum? Do you have the power to shape worlds? Do you have no influence on anyone or anything? Which end of the equation are you closer to?

And…are you interested in figuring out the process of making miracles in your own life…because YOU SAID SO???

Here are five  things you can do this very moment to start speaking your words into existence…

1. Commit to one “Because I Said So” for starters. We tend to bombard ourselves with words and intentions. We mean them when we say them, but have a hard time keeping up. Quality is much better than quality. It lays the foundation for everything that comes after.

2. Create an intention, then get quiet. Let it sink in to your consciousness. Write it out or speak it out loud if you like. Then let it be.

3. Get underneath other people’s intentions. There’s nothing like good energy coming back to you after you’ve been there for others. Celebrate the success of those who speak their words into existence.

4. Accept help. It’s your birthright. We’re humans. We communicate with and support each other. Join a community that is moving in your direction.

5. (As my friend Rich German says) focus on the BEING of your intention. Don’t create from a state of hyper-activity. Become the person who has the FEELING of the thing you want. The people, resources and things you’re supposed to do will show up. Then let them in.

Have a HUGE Weekend!
Larry
http://ManifestWithLarry.com

P.S. The Universe is your partner, not your servant. You have control over who you become. The Universe has control over how you get there.

Video: ENERGY, ATTRACTION AND JAVA!

Our conditioning is what holds us back from getting the things we want to get and feeling the way we want to feel. It’s basic psychology - nothing more. True for home business people, married couples, career builders and changers, people who want to lose weight, etc. Once we begin to set aside our assumptions and prejudice, new stuff can come in. And I’m glad for that, because I don’t like coffee, but I LOVE my java pop!

Mystery of Manifestation Explained

How The Law of Attraction REALLY Works

(This is a question I answered recently on another site. Pay attention..this is how the Law of Attraction really works.)

Question…

Hi everyone! I am as new as they get. I tried the whole clearing your mind and visualizing the whole new car smell, feel, etc. I just could not get into it. I don’t know if I am doing it wrong or what. I am looking for some pointers and some insight, please.

Also, I tried the meditation thing. Not really good at that either. I just feel like I am wasting time. I don’t know if I just don’t completely believe in the Law of Attraction or if I am not concentrating hard enough or what.

Please help !

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Answer…

This one’s pretty simple. Visualizing is the start of the process of manifesting. Anything we became, achieved or acquired got there because we wanted it first.

Then we visualized (or listened, touched, smelled…used whatever sense that made it more real to us). So it whetted our appetite for it some more.

Then the rubber hits the road. Where fantasies turn into manifestations. Our level of commitment.

COMMITMENT!

See, it’s a big word.

If we truly follow the law of attraction, we are lead to the intermediate steps that give us what we want.

We develop skills we didn’t have before.

We summon our courage to step out of our comfort zones.

We detach from worrying about what others think.

We value ourselves enough to sacrifice things that aren’t important enough and put our resources into the things that move us toward what we want.

And make no mistake people…those things are time, sweat, and money.

And we create paradigm shifts…in the way we think, feel and behave.

It’s very simple. If you’re visualizing but aren’t getting closer to what you really want, it’s one or more of these…

* You don’t really want it.
* You’re missing the signs that tell you which way to turn towards it.
* You don’t love yourself enough to believe you deserve it.
* You haven’t summoned the will power to follow the path that leads you toward it.

Now…how do you change that? Simple (though not necessarily easy)…

* Clarify what you want.
* Make it big and bright, again through visualization of some kind.
* Develop the self love and self respect to believe you deserve it.
* Make the commitment…what you want is more important than anything else in the world.
* Hook on with a group that’s going in your direction.
* Find a mentor or coach that will assist you in these processes, if you’re not getting there on your own.

This reminds me of a line from a movie: A League of Their Own. Geena Davis tells Tom Hanks she’s quitting the girl’s baseball team because “it just got too hard.”

Tom’s response: “It’s supposed to be hard. If it was easy everyone would be doing it. The hard is what makes it great.”

With Joy in the Commitment,
Larry

P.S. Another note tomorrow. I’m going to have a surprise for you.

Col and Larry “Do” LOA in NYC, Part Two

Part 2 of 4. More Colleen McGunnigle and Larry Hochman in New York City. In this video: how we deal with conflict and adversity. If you’re having a hard time in your home business, or a relationship or a health condition it helps to have a mastermind or supportive community along with you. Even a mentor or coach! Come have fun with us!

Video: Larry and Col “Do” LOA in NYC. Part One

Part 1 of 4. Come hang out with Larry Hochman and Colleen McGunnigle as we laugh, carelessly cross Manhattan streets, discuss Law of Attraction and come to some great conclusions about living happily and with purpose.

NO MORE HOLDING BACK SEMINAR: Replay Information

WOW!  That was fun!

I loved doing Sunday’s NO MORE HOLDING BACK END OF SUMMER TELESEMINAR.

There’s nothing like stirring up all that great energy, and feeling people beginning to move forward on their journey to the best part of themselves.

A bunch of you have already asked me for information about a replay.  So I’m happy to tell you…

Click Here to Listen In.

And if you want to get in on the special offer I made to the group - a surefire way to create an AMAZING 2009 - make sure you hear the end of the call.

Or, if you want the details, send an email to Larry@NoMoreHoldingBack.com with the subject line: School Special.

You heard me say it live: I will never promise more than I’m in a position to deliver.  So make sure you understand this…

If you’re a willing student, and ready to create some really good stuff in your life, I can help you get to the next level.

Thanks to Renee, Chipo, Dave and Beth for being willing to be coached live and in public.  You guys are great sports.

Have a Miraculous Week,

Larry
NO MORE HOLDING BACK
P.S.  Are you tired of the false starts, disappointments and dashed hopes?  You heard me say it on the call.  Now is the time for a new narrative.  Let’s build you a new story…together.

Sarah and “The Stupid Box”

So there’s, Sarah, my “Little Girl,” now 12, hopping around like a lunatic. She’s inside a large cardboard box that, three hours ago had a new vacuum cleaner in it.

I suppose it’s like moths to the light for kids, even those on the verge of being teenagers. The lure of hopping around in a big box is just too great to pass up.

Yeah, my girl still has the enthusiasm of little kid. And the judgment of one too.

There she is, joyfully hopping around in the box as if she’s participating in a potato sack race at a summer picnic. Of course most potato sack races take place in open fields. Sarah decided to have hers in the hallway approaching the two steps down to our sunken living room. She knew full well the steps were there, and decided to negotiate them.

And of course the laws of physics work just as well in Connecticut as anywhere else. She missed the first step, sprawled forward and made contact: forehead to piano bench.

If you’re a parent, you know that moment when you see your child have a household accident. First, after the momentary panic you assess if they’re really hurt and how badly. You look for the reaction and for the cry.
Is it a cry of pain? Is it a cry of embarrassment? Is it a “I know I’ll be in trouble if I don’t whip up some tears quickly” cry? Do they not cry at all?

I quickly figured out Sarah was more embarrassed than hurt. She looked at me, partially to see how I’d react and partially to see how she should react. I went with the old tried and true, “Bounce up, you’re OK.” I figured I could always backtrack to an icepack or 911 call if I needed to.

Once we both determined she was OK she decided to try for a face saving move. “Stupid box,” she blurted out.

A smile of amusement came over my face.
“Honey, I don’t need to say it, do I?”

Silence. She knew.

A fun story with a kid who learned a cheap lesson about empty boxes and sunken living rooms.

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Now, let’s talk about you.

You’re not a kid, yet you’re probably doing things that are as silly and obvious as my girl and her box. Don’t be ashamed. We’re all human.

The missed opportunities don’t come from making the silly mistakes.
They come from BLAMING THE CIRCUMSTANCES.

The box isn’t stupid. It’s just a box.

And the circumstances of your life aren’t stupid. None of them have the power to make choices for you, even ones in which you seem to be stuck.

Some of the things we do to ourselves are just so obvious to the outside world. We have the benefit of looking at you from the outside in. It’s easier for us to see. Some are a bit more subtle. But that’s a matter of degree.

In ways big and small we all put ourselves in that box. And we sometimes skate close to a danger zone. We sometimes do a poor job at managing our risk, like the lovely Sarah.

Like I said, it’s cool. Make your mistakes. It’s part of the human condition.

Then keep growing your skills of observation and accepting personal responsibility. Did you screw up? Bounce up after falling down, laugh at your silliness and decide to do something different.

Energy wasted on blaming the circumstances is energy you could be using on making things better. No exceptions.

I’m going to go put a big empty cardboard box in the garage, out of harm’s way. Meanwhile, have fun being your gloriously imperfect self.

Your Pal,
Larry
http://NoMoreHoldingBack. com

P.S. Another reminder: NO MORE HOLDING BACK END OF SUMMER TELESEMINAR. This Sunday, 8:00 PM Eastern (USA). Call in Number: (518) 825-1300. Access code: 31626.
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