Audio Post: Being a “Berry Good” Role Model

Corny title, Serious message.

CLICK HERE TO LISTEN

If you intend to grow, change and manifest great stuff, it’s worth listening to all seven minutes.

Your Trail-Blazing Friend,
Larry
http://NoMoreHoldingBack.com/create

Juggling In Paradise: Sort Of

Shot while visiting my friend Frank in August 2006.

Where is this beautiful oasis?

Southern Florida?

Bahamas?

Tahiti?

Nope.  It’s Lake Mendota, in Madison, Wisconsin.  Not exactly a place known as a tropical paradise.

But paradise is in the imagination, isn’t it?  It was gorgeous that day.  And I was hanging out with one of my best pals, joking, laughing, being a kid again.

Find your own paradise, no matter where you are.  The difference between Wisconsin and the West Indies is only between your ears.

Your Pal in Paradise,
Larry

HOW TO CREATE A LIFE WORTH LIVING BLUEPRINT WORKSHOP:
http://LarryandDarryl.com

Merry Half-Christmas

Tomorrow, June 25 is the halfway point.

I was reminded of this at 8:00 this morning when my 12 year old emerged from her bedroom wearing a Santa cap. She (and her big sister) were under the impression today was the 25th. Being out of school, they had lost track of both the day and date. I wasn’t sure of the date either until I checked the calendar. I felt a little bad telling them.

Then I was amused to no end when they refused to believe it was actually the day before the big “half-day.”

No matter. They will be ready tomorrow, Santa hats on heads. Heck, this will give them some time to decorate the house…

…now that the lawn is mowed!

Any day can be a holiday. May tomorrow be a wonderful Half-Christmas for you.

And may today be a fantastic Half-Christmas minus one.

Ho Ho Ho,
Larry
An early Christmas present: my FREE Ten Day CRASH COURSE IN CREATION. Click Here to Unwrap.

You Are A Leader (Yes, YOU)

You are a leader.

Whether you like it or not, YOU are a leader.

The reason I say this is because leadership involves two elements…leaders and followers.

And someone is following you…so you are a leader.

You’re also a follower, but we’ll get to that later.

If you chose to read this post, you’re no doubt a forward thinking, courageous soul who actively seeks out the challenges of leadership, so the word “leader” doesn’t give you undue amounts of anxiety.

I’m going to say it again…you are a leader.

What makes someone a leader? Is it because they’re in the front of the room? Maybe.

Is it because they have the most success in a given endeavor and people want to see what they’re doing? Perhaps.

Is it because someone feels so inadequate at a task that they’re willing to take direction from anyone, and you’re the closest person around who seems to have some degree of competence? Could be that also!

Leadership is often situational. I’m no longer involved with building the home business organization that got this whole thing started. When I was and it came to maneuvering the organization, I deferred to my people who came before me.

They was the leaders. They knew things I didn’t know, and there were things I had to learn from them. So I did the best I could to shut my mouth and open my ears.

So that’s situational leadership.

Then there’s a more lasting kind…I guess I’ll call it spiritual or moral leadership.

Remember the person in front of the room at the microphone? If he or she is the one with the power… with the authority to provide the leadership, people in the audience are going to stay focused on him or her.

If that person has the position but not the POWER that goes along with it, the folks in the audience is going to be looking to someone in the crowd…the one who REALLY calls the shots…to see what the real scoop is.

This is leadership by being a role model.

When you get into the grown-up world, that power is earned, whether you have the title or not. People will seek it out.

When you’re a kid, hopefully it’s coming from parents or other primary care-givers…and not the television… or the other kids.

Kids will give the grown-ups a pass for a while…whether the leadership being provided by the grown-ups in their lives is valid or not, the kids will accept it up to a certain point, either because there are no other sources for it, or because the kids love you so much that they want to believe you’re a good role model.

So they accept whatever leadership you’re offering…good, bad or indifferent.

Things change as those kids get older, don’t they!

At some point, the leadership has to be earned. And the best way to earn that leadership and keep it is by committing to the welfare and best interests of those who would follow you.

It’s very simple.  If you want to be a leader, be someone worth following.

Stay the course. Make the tough decisions.

And live by the example you set for your followers.

Have a Magnificent Week,
Larry

NO MORE HOLDING BACK
FREE Ten Day CRASH COURSE IN CREATION

My Hot 14 Year Old Girlfriend

Too Funny!

I was out food shopping with my almost 15 year old daughter, Jillian. We did our usual father/daughter thing, which was argue about everything possible for a father and daughter to argue about, while still basically enjoying each other’s company.

Now a little background information here: Jill and I sometimes talk like father and daughter (especially when she wants money from me), and sometimes like two adults. She’s a pretty mature kid. In this moment she was large and in charge. Since my wife/her mom was out of town, she decided she would be calling the shots, including the proper way to load groceries on their ride to the cash register.

We continued discussing the best way to get this done, which is another way of saying she lectured me on how to do it her way.

The cashier, a friendly woman jumped into the conversation. Jill said something to the effect that I will listen to her because if not, when I get older she was going to put me in the home.

The woman laughed, then she said the magic words…

“He’s a pretty good catch.  Where did you find him?”

That went over Jill’s head, but not mine.

I answered, “She’s my daughter.”

She responded back,
“Wow, you look too young to be her father.”

And of course this woman made an instant friend out of me (though I’m not sure Jill felt so good about it.)

It’s true though. She’s a filled out, attractive, almost 15 year old young woman who usually plays older than her age. I’m a young looking 42 who, most of the time plays younger than my age. I enjoy myself 99% of the time, and I guess it shows.

That, and I’m sure supermarket cashiers are used to seeing all kinds of strange stuff. It didn’t surprise her to see an older guy with a much younger girl.

I told the lady I’d be back on her line as often as possible, with or without my “girlfriend.” Then I called out to Jill,
“Come on, GF, let’s get moving.”

Meaning? I don’t know. Maybe being happy makes you look and feel younger. Maybe it’s that people have their own perceptions of things, and what they’re thinking may be completely different from what you expect.

All I know is that I had a fun afternoon with my little girl/main squeeze.

Here’s to a fun weekend for you too!
Larry
http://NoMoreHoldingBack.com/create

Listening With Your “Earballs”

We know when we look people right in the eye – with our full attention, they tend to respond. If you want to impress someone, intimidate someone, get someone’s attention, make some feel important, you go eyeball to eyeball with them.

And of course that’s easy to demonstrate. You look right at them. If you’re eyeball to eyeball it’s impossible not to notice.

Of course that could have several different meanings. It’s possible to be looking right at someone and right through them at the same time.

I’m a big fan of looking at people. I’m a visual person by nature. But if I really want you to feel validated, I’m going to hear you with my earballs.

Yes, I know there are no such things as earballs. Listening is a funny thing. It’s harder to get evidence that someone’s really listening to you than it is they’re seeing you. There are no senses that give you direct evidence. There are no pupils dilating, or eyelids drooping.

But there are cues. There are smiles at the right time. There are statements that confirm you’re being heard correctly. There are questions that communicate interest in what’s being said.

And there’s one other thing – telling someone you’re hearing them with your earballs.

Yeah, they’ll look at you funny. But they’ll also know you’re paying attention. It takes focus to say something as silly yet profound to another person.

And it paints a good picture. It’s a good analogy with our visual senses.

Try it! Next time you’re talking with someone and you want them to know you’re with them, let them know you’re hearing them with your earballs.

If they like it, take credit for the expression yourself. If thy don’t, tell them that silly, bald juggling guy in Connecticut came up with it.

Listening To You With Both Earballs,

Larry

HOW TO CREATE A LIFE WORTH LIVING

Messages From An Electrical Storm

(Written last night.
)

Monday evening, 9:36 pm.  The Universe is Whispering in My Ear…

Here I am, averaging about five hours of sleep per night for the past three or four days.

Doing things I really enjoy until late at night, then up early in the morning. Half the time I’m waking up on my own, excited about what the day holds.

But we all have our saturation points.  And my body is telling me - “Hey Bud, you’ve found yours.

So in a sense it’s probably no accident that an electrical storm knocked out our Internet service around an hour ago.

A perfect invitation to go to bed instead of working on line, promoting that favorite event of mine: HOW TO CREATE A LIFE WORTH LIVING.

And Larry will certainly take advantage of it. I’ll be in bed, eyes closed in fifteen minutes - promise.

(Typing this off-line now, to be transferred on line later.)

That storm … it IS a sign.

Some of us will say, “C’mon, Dude. It’s a storm, not a sign.”

And some will say, “You have delusions of grandeur. The Universe, or at least weather patterns don’t revolve around your need for sleep.”

And some will say, “You can make anything into a sign. It’s all in how you see things.”

I’m with the third group. With time, practice and a BIG improvement in my self-esteem, I got good at figuring stuff out from the cues around me.  I raised my energy to the point where I can see things not just as they are, but as they could be.

And that seems to be the challenge for many of the folks I know: freeing up their energy so they get good at noticing stuff around them.

I don’t think the storm came around so I can get a good night’s sleep. But I KNOW I’m good at figuring out how to interpret signals – both from within and beyond – that give me guidance for my next move.

Tonight the Universe is inviting me to close up shop early. And I’m gonna do it.

What about you? Are you a good observer? That same storm might be telling you something completely different.

But you’ll figure it out. You’re smart.

And if you’re at the beginning stages of getting comfortable with taking in the lessons of the Universe, stick with me. We’ll work on it together.

Your Happy, Sleepy, Off-Line Friend,
Larry

http://NoMoreHoldingBack.com/create

Audio Post: To The Parents

Recorded a couple of weeks ago on a Tuesday evening.

Nine and a half minutes long.

This is SO worth listening to.

Click Here To Listen.

With Love and Respect,

Larry

To The Dads…

Enjoy your breakfasts, homemade cards, ties, socks, car wax, etc.

Enjoy the little arms around you, or the bear hugs from people bigger than you are, yet somehow managed to be your little kids at one point.

Savor the phone calls and/or cards, or the memories of them.

Celebrate the fact you brought life into the world.

Recognize how important you are in providing love, support, and wellness for your kids. No matter what your current circumstances are, they love you and look up to you…all of them!

Happy Father’s Day!

Your Partner in Fatherhood,
Larry

http://NoMoreHoldingBack.com

CRASH COURSE IN CREATION

Tim Russert

I was on the phone with one of my coaching clients yesterday.
She told me Tim Russert had died, which I had found out a few
minutes before we started speaking.

Now this is a great lady, this coaching client of mine.  Strong,
healthy, a good person.  And she was nervous about Tim Russert
dying because the two of them were in the same general age
group.  I heard the wheels turning, “Could I be next?”

There is a world of difference between my friend and Tim Russert.
I don’t know anything about his personal life, but from the pictures
they showed he didn’t seem like he was in the best of shape.
And I have to imagine the kind of schedule he kept up caused a
lot of stress.

And the stuff he dealt with on a day to day basis…the negativity
of a news environment - I don’t imagine that being too good for
anyone on a spiritual level.

Compare that with my friend…a marathon runner, in a good financial
place, in a stable relationship.  Night and day.

So why is my client thinking in these terms?  Well, that’s why
she’s my client…to change the way she thinks.  And of course,
that will allow all kinds of other stuff she’d like to have happen
into her life.

One other thing…she has some fear she’s going to die.
She’s right.  She is going to die.  So am I.  So are you.

But isn’t it the quality of the life we’re given the thing we want
to focus on?  I don’t know much about Tim Russert, but I’m guessing
he had a good time on the whole.  He seemed to be doing the thing
he loved.  He checked out a little early, but I’m guessing if he
were around, he’d tell  you he’d do the same thing over again.

It reminds me of the line from The Shawshank Redemption:
“Get Busy Living, or Get Busy Dying.”

Looks to me like Tim Russert lived right up until he died.

What about you?  Are you busy living your dreams or making
plans for an unfulfilled exit?

Start living.  Today.  Not tomorrow.  Now.

Next Page »

• Categories

  • Law of Attraction
  • No More Holding Back
  • Seminars
  • The Guidance Guy
  • Videos

• Archives

  • February 2009
  • January 2009
  • December 2008
  • November 2008
  • October 2008
  • August 2008
  • July 2008
  • June 2008
  • May 2008
  • April 2008
  • March 2008
  • November 2007

• Link

  • Free Ten Day CRASH COURSE IN CREATION
  • How To Create A Life Worth Living Blueprint Workshop
  • Internet Marketing and Web Design Blog for Successful Business
  • Larry Hochman’s Bookstore
  • Larry’s Myspace
  • NO MORE HOLDING BACK!
  • Web Design and Internet Marketing

• Enter Your Name And Email To Get Larry's Tips On How To CRUSH Whatever Is Holding You Back From Reaching Your Dreams
  Name:
  Email:

  
• 

• Recent Posts

  • Weekly Audio: The Activity Comes LAST
  • I Smile at Pain (and so can you)
  • Video: The Richness of Your Environment
  • Why You Quit On Your Goals, and How To Get Success
  • Giving In A Snowstorm

• Recent Comments

  • Kevin Lankford on I Smile at Pain (and so can you)
  • croz on Why You Quit On Your Goals, and How To Get Success
  • George Condit on How The Law of Attraction REALLY Works
  • patricia on The Most Important Thing You’ll Read This Year If You’re A Biz Builder
  • Bill Miller on Cash Flow and Recognition: Two Years Later
• 
  Visit NO MORE HOLDING BACK!