I Smile at Pain (and so can you)

Yesterday at the gym I thought about something that caused me discomfort. Not a big deal, but something that was a little unsettling. It inspired another thought that made me feel a whole lot better. Maybe it will do the same for you.

Often when I’m thinking - in a relaxed allowing state, free from self recrimination I find the complicated parts of my life unraveling.

I come up on a problem, some part of my present that’s not at ease. I see the error of thought, emotion or behavior. There’s discomfort, maybe even pain. It’s laid out clear as day.

And I smile.

When confronted with the thorny part of their lives many people will furrow their brows, curse their luck and otherwise react negatively. They feel powerless before their problems. They allow themselves to be victims.

I enjoy understanding my problems. Once a pattern makes sense to me, even a bad one I instantly feel better. I can choose to alter that pattern, quickly or slowly. Or I can choose to live with it for the time being and turn my attention to things that are more important to me in the moment.

Or I can even decide to live with it altogether and celebrate my perfect imperfection.

But knowledge is the beginning of power. It’s the gateway we can cross…quickly, slowly or not at all.

When we smile at our pain we honor ourselves and our glorious self-awareness regardless of any other circumstances.

Got some pain? Bless it. See it as a growth experience.

Get quiet and breathe into it.

And watch it magically bless you back.

Your Friend,
Larry
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P.S. Please don’t confuse understanding the pattern of pain with sitting for hours on end, trying to understand the “why” of it. That’s the worst kind of hell I know of, and one many counselors are guilty of perpetuating (I’m a certified counselor, so I’m allowed to say that). As I tell my coaching clients, the why’s usually come to the surface…very gently when you surrender the effort to understand.

P.P.S. If you haven’t gotten on my newsletter at http://NoMoreHoldingBack.com yet, this is the right time to do so. Got some groups that will be forming next mont

You Don’t Have To Be A Big Player To PLAY BIG!

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THE BACKSTORY…

I wrote a piece that I intended to put out this morning.  It started with a woman who had unsubscribed from one of  my newsletters and said some not very nice things on the way out the door.  Happens from time to time.  Short version: she accused me of being judgmental and a bully.

I disagreed.  And I wrote an article in response to her note.  And I was all set to put it out.

Then I sent it to one of my friends to get a reaction.

I got a joking response - “I don’t think I should go there.”

Well, that’s exactly where I wanted him to go.  Otherwise I wouldn’t have asked for his opinion.

It took some teeth-pulling, but eventually I got my answer.  Short version: the article was a disaster waiting to happen.  He told me to bury it in a deep hole and never let it see the light of day.

So I took another look.  And I agreed.  Just put down my shovel to write this instead.

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This is not about the other article.  It’s about my friend.  And it’s about YOU.

The friend who finally came clean wants a strong, leveraged income he can work around his family.  He’s not looking to get super rich from his efforts.  Some extra money to keep up with expenses and have a little extra at the end of the month for fun would be just super.

He doesn’t want to be the superstar in front of a room of adoring fans.  He likes his life the way it is and wants to find a way to keep it intact.

So he’s not looking to be a “Big Player.”

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That really doesn’t matter.  Here’s THE THING I want you to understand…

If you’re going to do anything to improve your lifestyle - make money in a business, advance your career, lose weight, gain weight, get healthier, get a sweetheart, fix a broken relationship, etc. - you don’t necessarily have to be a big player.

But you have to PLAY BIG.

I asked my friend to look at that article because I had my own doubts.  This is someone whose opinion I respect.  I made that clear.

But he was still shy about asserting himself…about expressing the source energy inside that told him he was right…and felt strongly about.

(I know he felt strongly, because the one sentence response I asked for turned into ten paragraphs.)

It’s not about how BIG you want to be.  It’s how TRUE TO YOURSELF you want to be.

That’s what the Universe responds to.  It’s what people around you respond to.

It’s how you free up your own energy to go out and get whatever you want.

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Got something in your life you KNOW isn’t right?  Are you permitting it?

You don’t get to complain about what you permit.

And you don’t get to have success until you unfold all that you are.

Once you do, you get to have as much or as little as you’d like.

Thank you, my friend, for your wise counsel.  I learned and grew from it.

Thank you MORE for sharing your authentic, congruent Divine self.

NOW…how are YOU going to free up the inner genius inside?

I have a suggestion (don’t I always?)

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I’m off to enjoy this glorious Sunday morning.  Please make sure you do the same.

Your Friend,
Larry

P.S.  “Playing big” has a funny way of taking the toxic people out of your life and replacing them with some really cool ones.  It also has a funny way of making money and other resources hunt you down and stick to you.  I found out in the greatest of ways.  Is it your turn?

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You are in control of how you think, feel and behave…in every situation….

if you choose to be so.

Have a great weekend,

Larry
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For The Freaks Like (Insert Your Name Here) and Me…

“…and I Mean That With All The Love In My Heart.”

What Do You Call The Person Who Graduated Last In His Medical School Class?

(Repost of an article from last summer. Getting ready to create some REAL magic on our call this Sunday.)

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Well, what do you call that person?

We spend much of our lives in a state of homeostasis, or trying to keep a balance of where we think we’re supposed to be.

Think of a thermostat. It’s set at a certain temperature. If the room gets too cold, the heater comes on. Warm air is pumped in until the room is goes back to the thermostat setting. If there’s a cooling unit, same thing happens when the room gets too warm.

That’s homeostasis.

Human beings, especially in their interactions with others have that same mechanism. We have a set point for our lives, and for our dealings with the significant people in our lives. When things get too hot for our comfort level, we cool them down. If they cool down too much, we turn up the heat. Balance is restored - at least our own personal version of balance.

Now some of us - especially the wise, ambitious far-sighted people reading this story - want to grow. Even when the forces around us pull back to our current reality, we still have that desire for more.

The discomfort of breaking out of our little box kicks in.

But so does what Eric Butterworth calls Divine Dissatisfaction. “Dammit, I’m supposed to be doing more!”

You may be in that place. I’m often in that place. Someone who I love dearly is in that place right now.

There’s a saying many of the modern day sages use, and it may be the right one for you to hear right now…

“You don’t have to get it right. You just have to get it going.”

My dear friend wants to get it right. She is SO blessed with wisdom and love it makes her crazy to not express all of it.

I hear you.

Please understand this: the Universe supports those who make a commitment to their dreams, even when things seem way out of balance.

And our institutions - family, workplace, soccer leagues etc. - can be surprisingly flexible when it comes to supporting people who want change.

The ones that aren’t? Don’t worry. You’ll either overpower them, or move on.

You’ll stumble, fall, get scraped up…

…and find those who are moving in your direction and receive love and comfort from them.

You don’t have to get it right. You just have to get it going.

So what do you call the person who graduated last in his class from medical school?

Doctor.

With Love,
Larry
http://NoMoreHoldingBack.com

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The Most Important Thing You’ll Read This Year If You’re A Biz Builder

If you know me, you know I’m not prone to exaggeration or over the top language. I like my credibility, and won’t ask you to do something unless it’s REALLY important.

Well if you’re in any kind of home business, please read this. It may be the most important thing you read this year….

I have a friend - a close friend - who I absolutely believe in. He’s got wisdom, intuition and a way of bringing out the best in those with whom he works. The world is crying out for his skills, though the world doesn’t know it yet.

(Stick with me on this story. I’m going to tell you about “Anthony” but ultimately this is about YOU.)

Anthony is a novice in marketing, and just a little shy about introducing himself in the kind of way that will get people’s attention. Typical stuff for someone who is new to this kind of industry or has tried and failed in home business in the past.

I engineered a set of circumstances so that Anthony had a good strong designer and copywriter working with him free of charge. I also found a hosting deal through a friend of mine so that his hosting fees were literally six dollars a month, with outstanding customer service built in.

So far so good, right?

Anthony was thrilled with the deal, and told me he’d have to wait until payday to make the transaction, since things were REALLY tight this week. No problem. Been there, done that, happy to be out.

A few days later I got an email that went out to Anthony’s mailing list on one of the social networking sites. One of the “gurus” he knows instructed him to sign up for a monthly affiliate program - at $79.95 bucks a pop - and blast his lists, telling them to do the same.

He jumped in. I got an email inviting me to be part of this deal, and register under his affiliate link.

What he’s marketing is good stuff. It’s a product that has value (though I’m not sure it’s eighty dollars worth). It’s not something I’m interested in at the moment, but in another time it might have been. And if I do decide it’s worth, I’ll surely grab it through his affiliate link.

But there’s the thing. This good, strong effective person is doing what most people in home business do…look for “The Magic System”, as if plugging into it will catapult them into riches and recognition.

I asked Anthony the hard questions. How will he sustain the $79.95 per month expense? Does he think this one letter, which looks very similar to the other marketing letters we’re all bombarded with will really influence anyone?

Is his upline guru supporting him in his marketing efforts, or just pointing him in a direction and giving him a push?

And the important question: is he putting blind faith in a guru who may or may not know what he’s doing, or in himself…his ability to learn, grow, attract and stand on his own two feet?

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Of course I’m talking from experience here. Full disclosure: I’m not in the MLM business at the moment. Could happen again someday, and I am an affiliate for several different entities and programs I feel good about. I’m all for a loving exchange of value for value: cash for great products or service. And I’m on both ends of that equation.

What I’m NOT for is pouring my money into a program that disempowers someone from experiencing their own greatness.

I love network marketing. I entered it in 1999, lost money for a while, learned a lot, broke through, made money, still get my royalty checks years after I stopped building my organization, and moved with something that is more in alignment with who I am. When I find the right product or service with the right people and right energy, AND it’s the right time I’ll probably jump back in.

(Note to prospectors…this is NOT the right time. Do not pitch me.)

I eventually did start making money because I built the most important business asset I have: myself. It’s really the only important asset. I became attractive…to myself and to the outside world. And along the way I brought people into my life with complimentary energy and skills. Didn’t really have to do anything other than let my energy out. People who were ready responded.

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It’s the message I gave to Anthony. You are more than good enough. This is someone who already has a high level of personal development. He just forgot…the fear of stepping into unfamiliar territory caused him to run to the herd.

I’m in the marketplace. I believe 100% in what I sell, which are my own products, training classes and personal coaching. They’ve worked for many others. I’ve got documentation of people who have made money, found the love of their lives, got healthier and found peace, with my presence as the spark that lit the flame.

And I market the products and services of people who have done the same…stuff that has moved me, not any old thing that comes down the highway.

I want you to buy from me and enroll in my coaching classes - if you’re ready - because they will give you the only thing you really need: access to your own genius and power.

I want Anthony to let out the magic inside himself. I want YOU to do the same.

I don’t want you to think that running with the herd will take you to the next stage of your business development. The “duplicatable system” shows up in everyone’s inbox, and usually in their spam folder.

Too much noise, too much traffic. The herd is being screened out.

What will never be screened out - what the world will always want - is someone who is authentically, loving, confidently themselves. They’ll pay to be around us…absorb our energy, love us, let us love them, grow with us and move into a state of grace and appreciation with us.

Us. Like Anthony. Like Me. Like You.

Yes, like YOU…if you dare to step into that role.

However you do it, find someone who will guide you towards the REAL you…the beautiful, magnetic soul waiting to come out and play.

Have An Amazing Week,
Larry

P.S. The NMHB community are the first to see this, because you have a head start in the co-creative process with me. This will be going out to the world in 24 hours.

The Passageway To Your Music

So I’m rushing around the kitchen, doing this and that and a little bit of the other.  Sarah, my 12 year old is with me.  She’s chatting about music, her favorite topic and I’m half-listening (yes, it’s true).

A little background, for those of you who don’t know my family: Sarah is an exceptional singer.  She sings with the Connecticut Children’s Chorus and has sung with the Connecticut Opera Company.  It’s her passion, and she’s willing to put the joy and the time in.  Most of the videos I’ve produced over the past couple of months have been recorded during the two and half hours I’m waiting for her during her Tuesday rehearsals.

She’s learning her art, which makes me very happy - even when she’s giving me details I’m not particularly interested in, at time when my brain is on other things.

But one thing she said to me stood out tonight.  Sarah was practicing her vocal exercises, something that was making me crazy at the moment she was doing it.  Seemed to be a whole bunch of random noises specifically designed to antagonized her father.  Then I was about to ask (demand) she stop she told me how she hadn’t completely warmed up, and she had to open her whole body to let the sound out.

“Run that by me again, Sarah.”

“You have to make a passageway through your body to let the air come out and go…”

The she stood erect, breathed in deeply and produced this note.  It was absolute clarity.  It seemed like it came from her toes.  This little girl, in a random moment on a Thursday evening generated a sound I’ve never created in my life.

Holy Moley!!!!

Out of the mouths of babes.  Sarah nailed what we’re all trying to do.  When you’re trying to make something beautiful, profound, sublime, choose your adjective…you have to open up your being - your whole being.

You have to set aside the the things that block your music from coming out.  They may not seem related, but when you intend to give it all you’ve got in one area of your life, it helps if all your channels are open.  It may even be necessary.

Yeah, Sarah can produce some neat sounding stuff in any given moment.  But if she’s going to give it her best..the kind of thing that gets her on stage with world class musicians, the channels have to be open.

How about you?  What are you working on?  What passages need to be cleared?

What are you holding onto that it’s time to let go of?

NO MORE HOLDING BACK!  Your music - your full throated, soul driven beautiful music is waiting to come out…in whatever medium that works for you.

And greatness is on the other side of those closed passageways…guranteed!

Let it go!  Let ALL of it go!

Love,
Larry

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